eyes still blind
You’re all I see,
Mind plays tricks on me
Going back to sleep in a few
Hoping not to weep
Just to dream anew
Failure is an opportunity to do better. Yes, that is true. But something is much, much greater than that: it is your golden time to become the best.
Failure is a natural event that happens to each and every one of us. There is diversity in failure because each tale is different, situations are unique and its degree, personal. However, we all know how to define failure and we know how it feels.
Failure is the variance of what should have been. No one intends to fail. But something might have been done to arrest failure. Perhaps there was not enough planning or something might have been overlooked. Probably you were too lax and became overly confident, not seeing there was a patched hole that was not managed along the way. So failure comes. Now that it’s there, it is not time to sulk over it for the days to come. Allow yourself to feel the pain of failure, to look back and recognize your shortcomings. Wallow if your must, but only for just a week. Most of all, accept and forgive yourself.
Sure, you failed…and so? Afraid of people finding out that you did not succeed in a particular area or one endeavor of yours? Whatever that situation may be or the circumstances surrounding your failure, you may keep it. You do not have to tell everyone you know that you failed in this or you failed in that. You can hold on to it all for yourself. Should you want someone to know about it just to feel some kind of release, then tell your significant other who may be a parent, a sibling, a best friend or your other half. It is not important for other people to know because no one else feels the misery of your own letdown better than you do. You know that the worse had happened and you can either view it as a chance to pound yourself down to six-feet under by way of depression or you can just accept that you failed.
Most people see failure as the dead-end. While it may not be the most fulfilling thing in the world, failure can teach you a lot of lessons. You are not perfect. No one is. Being too hard on yourself will not make things get any better. You just have to move on. By moving on, you let yourself free from the anger and despair you feel about yourself and your situation. There is nothing much you can do about it but to look at the new possibilities ahead of you.
You cannot let this chance go by without learning something from the experience. It is the best time to make the necessary changes, either for yourself or for the situation to improve. It also an opportune time to realign your values or principles, to reevaluate your plan, and to find the missing pieces that you might not have noticed before.
The beauty of failure is that it gets you to see a moment of revelation, or even series of it, that you have not seen before. Do not miss this auspicious time to derive something good from it and come out a better person than you were before. It is not the end, but only a beginning of your new journey to greater heights.
moi/17 march 2007